First, take a moment to acknowledge the big step you’ve taken towards your own health and well-being. For most people, deciding to seek outside help is not an easy decision, and therefore it deserves to be applauded. Now that you’ve exhaled, there are few things you should know about your first therapy session.  

Paperwork

During the first appointment, there is no shortage of paperwork. Prepare by completing this paperwork prior to your visit. This serves two purposes: it allows us to spend your time more efficiently by reviewing the things that are causing you difficulty and when you complete the paperwork at your leisure, you are more likely to provide more detailed information. This allows me to review your notes long after our session has ended.  

Get Ready to Chat

Expect to do most of the talking. I want to hear from you. Listening to your story, from your perspective provides me with rich information not just about you but about how you understand the problem(s). I’ll ask questions as needed; some of which may be uncomfortable or you may not be able to answer right away…that’s perfectly okay. Some discomfort is expected and part of the therapy process. However, you can let me know if it’s an area you prefer to discuss at a later time and I will be respectful of your needs. When the time comes we can discuss ways to minimize your discomfort in this particular area.

 

You can prepare by writing down any questions you have ahead of time. This helps you to remember what you want to ask. If you’re coming with a child(ren) or other family members, encourage them to write down any questions they have too. Remember, the only silly question is the one you don’t ask, so just ask!

 

If you’re bringing a child, tween or teen for their first therapy session, please discuss it with them well before the appointment date. This helps to reduce anxiety and promotes discussion among family members about the reasons for seeking therapy.

Be Open to Growth

Last, be open to the process. Be reminded that this problem did not develop overnight and therefore cannot be solved overnight. The process of therapy requires patience with yourself and other family members as you learn new ways of thinking, behaving, and coping to break old habits. It takes practice, lots and lots of practice and patience. But you won’t be alone on your journey!

 

Have questions about your first session with me? Contact me today!

–Dr. Gaines