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Download this guide that highlights 5 ways that being a “Strong Black Woman” is not as great as you’ve been led to believe.
You wear many hats and realistically, you can’t just abandon your role as wife, mother, friend, sister, professional, aunt, confidant…the list goes on and on.
It’s exhausting just thinking about all you do and when you add the weight of being a Strong Black Woman, it feels like you need superhuman abilities to accomplish everything.
After reading this checklist you will be able to identify tendencies and patterns in your life that could be contributing to a decrease in:
It’s also a great resource for helping others understand and see what it’s like to be in a Black woman’s shoes.
They’re present in Strong Black Woman affirmations and they are certainly admirable traits and characteristics. But overall, the Strong Black Woman has a heavy mantle she carries.
This resource is just the first step of what I hope to be many you’ll take with me to dismantle this stereotype so that you can be free from its burden.
Download Suffering Silently: 5 Ways Being A Strong Black Woman is Hurting You Now!
As a Black woman, you’re seen as the problem-solver and chief caretaker for everyone in your life – never buckling, never feeling vulnerable, and never bothering with your pain.
Taraji P. Henson on why she doesn’t like the label:
“It came as a thing to empower us, but then, as years go on, we’ve been ignored because of that very statement. It dehumanized us, and our pain; it belittles our tears. We’re supposed to be able to watch our brothers, sons, and fathers be murdered in the streets. But we can take it because we’re ‘strong.’ We can deal with it. And that’s just not true. I have issues with titles like that and ‘black girl magic’ because we’re not fairies. We don’t magically rebound from our pain. We hurt and suffer just like others.”
As a Strong Black Woman, you channel your inner Olivia Pope. (If know you know…If you don’t Google Ms. Pope.)
You hold others accountable. You take care of business – yours and everyone else’s.
Don’t get me wrong, you look good doing it, but how much of your relationships and health are you sacrificing?
You’re self-aware enough to know something’s wrong, but you may not be able to pinpoint exactly what. This guide is a great place to start. Use it as a self-assessment tool to help you move towards a more balanced life.
I’m Dr. La-Toya Gaines and I’m a fully licensed therapist with a PsyD in Clinical Psychology from the Michigan School of Professional Psychology. I have more than a decade of experience working specifically with families and I am the founder of Family Matters Counseling & Psychological Services. My current experience as a clinician and clinical supervisor to others helps to keep my clinical expertise sharp and up to date.
I’ve used that expertise to create Suffering Silently: 5 Ways Being A Strong Black Woman is Hurting You and my accompanying webinar Silent No More: An Empowering Guide to Owning and Changing the Strong Black Woman Narrative.
My goal is to help Black women live happier and healthier lives through education, self-assessment and empowerment.
Start your journey to a more balanced and fulfilled life!